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How Forgiving Benefits Us
by Saadia Mirza
20 April 2017
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Isn’t it hard for us to forgive the ones who hurt us, the ones who broke our hearts?
Sometimes we’re hurt by the people who are nearest to us, so it becomes even harder for us to forgive.
Many people consider forgiveness a weakness. But this is completely wrong.
The people who can forgive others quickly are the strongest kind of people because they have control over their emotions.
Despite being hurt, they tend to move on and overcome the grudges.
Grudges held for others take us nowhere; rather they keep us stuck in our own problems. By forgiving others, however, we release the negativity in our life and successfully move forward.
We benefit our own selves by forgiving because by doing so we take back our “Peace” from someone else’s hands.
Our religion has emphasized so much on forgiveness. Our One and Only Lord, Allah almighty, loves to forgive and He forgives our many sins and wrongdoings constantly. So shouldn’t we be striving to forgive others as well?
Don’t we all want forgiveness from Allah? No one would claim that they don’t want Allah to forgive them. So if we want Allah to forgive us, then we too should forgive others.
We should treat people the same way we want Allah to treat us. If we want forgiveness from Allah, we should be quick in forgiving people. If we want Allah to have mercy upon us, then we should be merciful to His slaves.
Abdullah bin ‘Amr narrated that the Messenger of Allah said:
“The merciful are shown mercy by Ar-Rahman. Be merciful on the earth, and you will be shown mercy from Who is above the heavens. The womb is named after Ar-Rahman, so whoever connects it, Allah connects him, and whoever severs it, Allah severs him.” [Jami` at-Tirmidhi].
We know the story when the Mother of Believers Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) was slandered and accused of something she hasn’t done. At that time, her father, Abu Bakr AsSeddiq, was supporting a relative financially. This relative was among those who got indulged in the false rumors created by Munafiqeen against his daughter. When Abu Bakr came to know about this, he swore that he will not support this relative financially again. Then, verse 22 of Surat An-Nur was revealed:
“And let not those of virtue among you and wealth swear not to give [aid] to their relatives and the needy and the emigrants for the cause of Allah, and let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Qur’an: Chapter 24, Verse 22)
After this verse was revealed, Abu Bakr said: “By Allah! We do want that Allah should forgive us”, and he resumed supporting that relative.
The lesson in this verse is that Allah Glorified and Exalted tells us that if we want to be forgiven, we should also forgive His slaves who have wronged us.
Allah removed the name of the person who harmed Abu Bakr completely from the equation, as though He is teaching us that when we forgive, we should be focusing on the immense reward awaiting us, which is Allah’s infinite, soothing and eternal forgiveness, instead of focusing on the individuals who hurt us.